DIARY OF AN OYO KOPA

21-01-2020

Photo Credit; Margareth Egbuchulam

Dear Diary,

The following words are the musings of a Nigerian who had herself a well deserved 8 hours sleep.

Now, before you come at me for ‘sleeping’ my dreams away, remember I had a crappy day yesterday. I had tried reading, it didn’t work. I tried chatting, it didn’t work. I just wanted to get bad vibes I had from work.

So, after having an amazing discussion with one of my favorite persons, sleep was recommended; boy did I sleep. From the remarks my roommates gave, I doubt they had seen me sleep that long before.

I woke up feeling so refreshed. I then had the clarity as well as the strength to take on tasks needed to be sorted. Word of advice; never doubt the potency of a great sleep.

Photo Credit; Margareth Egbuchulam

Let’s talk about today, shall we?

I decided to change my dressing today. From the usual jeans and sneakers (gosh, these are so comfy!) to a skirt and shirt. I don’t have any issues wearing this kind of clothing. It’s just not my style.

However, what’s the essence of the service year if not to learn, un-learn and re-learn. This is what I intend to do more. Explore new frontiers and challenge myself too. It’s time to leave my comfort zone.

Photo Credit; Margareth Egbuchulam

There are lots of discussions I try to avoid these days, because many love to take these so personal and would never be open to seeing other sides of the point being discussed. Topics ranging from bride price to my faith- I am Catholic, marriage and so many more.

There are select people I have these discussions with, why? They are matured and know what it means to have a proper argument. No name calling, no shaming and all other crap I have experienced during some arguments.

If you’re up for a discussion, let’s dive in shall we? What does respect entail? Would we consider it to be the complete servitude of one to another?

I was told of a lady who shows respect to her husband by allowing him to eat off her back. The image you have in your mind isn’t the one you see on R rated movies. I mean, she goes on all fours and he places the plates on her back and eats.

This can be cool with her. This is how she displays her respect. My issue is, why will someone come out boldly to state this to be the yardstick to measure respect especially in an institution as sacred as marriage. It truly baffles me. I sincerely and truly need answers to this as I am in a dilemma.

This dilemma of mine might resonate with someone else’s. This is the perk of being alive.

I made a vow to myself to live each day, intentionally. This ideology was once scary for me. However, living intentionally one day at a time makes you less scared.

Life will always try to throw us off our A game, that’s the sad reality. What matters however, is how you approach such situations.

Photo Credit; Margareth Egbuchulam

I think I have dished out so much advice in this entry, lol! Let’s see what tomorrow has to offer. Until, then, try to eat some fruits.

With much love,
From Maegy💙❤